Wedding Planning Between The Bride And The Groom

Back in the days when we were kids, i.e. in the 1980s, wedding planning was girly stuff.

In other words, most grooms didn’t take part in the planning process.

Times have changed and so have men.

So, many modern grooms plan their wedding together with their wives-to-be.

In this article, you can read some tips on how to make wedding planning an amusing interplay between two people who are in love.

Making the list of guests

The list of your guests will determine many other elements of your wedding day.

You can’t set the final budget, the food, and the venue until you’ve sorted out the number of invitees.

Therefore, the bride and the groom should sit down together several months before the wedding and define the number of guests.

In some areas, couples need to book their wedding venue for half a year or more in advance.

That’s why it’s important to come up with the final list in advance.

And if you want to avoid any misunderstandings over that matter, bring the elimination policy.

In other words, decide together what will be the criteria for your invitations. For instance, you might limit the family only to your parents’ siblings and cousins, as well as to their children.

Once you have the complete list, you can move on to other stages of wedding planning.

Choosing the rings

For many brides, the ring is the center of the wedding.

This is something every groom should bear in mind and behave accordingly.

So, at the beginning of the ring quest, it’s vital to choose the type of metal.

White gold has been popular with many wedded couples in the last decade.

However, it seems now that the good old yellow gold is back in action.

Some brides might even opt for pink gold. It’s a bold move but it suits some women more adequately than yellow or white gold.

But what’s more important than the visual appeal is the quality of the ring. Couples should shop around different jewelry stores and learn more about rings and carats. Once you see a fine ring, you’ll know it. It will be thicker and more massive than average wedding rings.

Apart from the rings, brides need to choose other wedding jewelry, as well. A necklace and a bracelet are two traditional pieces that many brides opt for. Of course, your decision will depend on your budget and your aesthetic preferences.

Finding the right venue

What used to be expensive only ten or fifteen years ago is now affordable even for middle-class wedded couples.

In line with that, some couples get married in Bali, while others transfer their guests to a wedding reception on Sicily.

Many brides and grooms from the US decide to get married in the Bahamas or in Mexico.

No matter what place you choose, pay attention to two crucial details for your venue.

Firstly, it needs to have enough space to accommodate all your guests.

Secondly, the restaurant should provide multiple menus. Your guest list might contain vegetarians, vegans, or people who don’t eat certain food for religious reasons.

Some places, like the Annex wedding venue, offer their guests a holistic experience in the tranquility of intact nature. That’s a perfect option for nature-loving couples.

On the other hand, you can find some beautiful hotels and restaurants in urban areas.

Again, your choice will depend on your preferences and on the type of guests you’re going to invite to your wedding.

Ensuring different menus

Can you imagine how many different people live in an average city in France or in the USA? They come from different cultural, religious, and historical backgrounds.

If you’re living in a culturally mixed community, make sure to take all the potential differences into account.

That’s why we’ve pointed out the importance of various menus.

Some people might be fasting during your wedding so you need to ensure a fish or veggie menu for them.

Others might eat only kosher food.

Also, some guests might not eat certain kinds of meat but prefer some untypical meat due to their health condition.

Even though such invitees rarely make the majority at wedding receptions, it would be nice to think about them, as well.

So, the bride and the groom could narrow down the list of the potential venues on the basis of their menus. After that, they can further communicate the specific needs of some of their guests.

Because of that, it would be wise to write a short footnote on your invitation cards. You can politely ask your guests to tell you in advance if they have any specific food requirements.

That way, you can ensure that everybody has the right menu on your special day.

Planning the honeymoon

Planning your honeymoon together is equally important as preparing the wedding reception.

Everybody knows at least one wedded couple in which one of the spouses didn’t like the honeymoon destination.

So, as you’re planning your wedding reception and other details, check out the options for the honeymoon.

If you’re planning to set off on a long journey or go to farther destinations, think about vacation package deals. You’ll get more for the same amount of money with such offers.

What’s more, if you book such a honeymoon in advance, the discount might be even higher.

As a result, you could afford an even more exclusive destination.

Also, make sure to leave some time between the wedding reception and the honeymoon. Only when all the guests leave the venue and you pay all the wedding costs should you go on your honeymoon.


The wedding planning adventure is the right test for the wife and husband-to-be. These preparations will tell you how well you do things together. Also, they will show whether you can function as a team.

It’s both practical and convenient to turn the process of wedding planning into a joint effort.

That way, you’ll share the responsibility and reduce the risk of exhaustion.

What’s more, you’ll be proud of yourselves that you’ve managed to organize the most important event in your life together.

After completing the reception with flying colors, you can go to your honeymoon and start your new life as a married couple.

James Barnes is an experienced wedding organizer and blogger at He specialized in organizing outdoor wedding events. When he isn’t writing about weddings and marital life, David usually goes swimming or playing squash.